If a 2 letter-big word(oxymoron intended)

Don’t you agree-IF is a strong word? 😉

We always say……………………….

 

• What if she too loved me?
• What if I had not said yes?
• What if I had spent more time with my parents?
• What if I had been more patient?
• What if I was two minutes early?
• What if I would have called up?
• What if I would have taken more time out of work?
• What if I would have stopped her?

And so many other ifs?? But when we ask ourselves these questions we don’t ponder over that we really aren’t left with any answer-why bother about questioning our mind now? But still the IF part keeps haunting back..it kills my brain and I go back to Q&A mode. I have so many ifs question too- I do regret too not doing and doing so many things!! If is a 2 letter big word (oxymoron intended). I sometimes silently wish if (see I have one more if here-phew poor me added one more to my Q&A bank) I could wipe this if and blank the IF folder in my memory.

Today too I’ll hit the sack with my bank of IF.

Hmmmmmm…..hey it has already started….

 

• What if I had not posted that blog?
• What if no one today also doesn’t posts any comments?
• What if i should have…………………………………………………………………….

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Dowry laws -boon or bane?

How often do we see News Channels flashing cover stories on dowry and harassment by in laws on young brides? They show the mental and physical pains inflicted on their mind and bodies. News channels in the recent past have glorified the acts of Nisha Sharmas and wannabe Nisha Sharmas. The TV Channels ensure that the lives of in laws are turned into hell which is good for the monsters.

My post here doesn’t endorse dowry or laws supporting them. My post deals with the other cheek of this monstrous face of civil laws. I have seen so many happy and closely knitted families getting ruined under the wake of dowry harassment. Young brides come up with pre decided mind to the joint families or closely knitted nuclear families and from day one try to make their mark in all audacious manners.They want to live life on their own terms. They have little patience, almost no resilience and no feelings for the essence of togetherness. Modern age brides think they are working and they are at par with the male counterpart. They emotionally blackmail the in laws and sometimes the husband to get separated and buy new house. They religiously preach the concept of DINK (double income no kids).And when the poor parents and emotional husband denies –they come up with the ultimate ultimatum (forgive the alliteration) –DO AS I SAY ELSE I’LL GO TO POLICE!! 😦

This emotionally drains the parents. They welcome the bride with great pomp and show and within few months she shows her ugly side and squeezes them. The parents and the son can’t even do anything as they are scared of police coz there’s a non bailable warrant if she reports. The worst is when the girl is supported by her parents. I really don’t know what is in her parents mind when they support her. Gone are the days when girls parents were always hospitable and told daughters –‘never a complain should come from your new home’. And now they wait for an opportunity and give warnings of police. Nowadays they are not lesser than the local goons.

But who wins in the end-no one? The husband gets emotionally separated from the parents and becomes a sandwich between the bride and parents. He remembers his mom’s food and dad’s suggestions. The parents sulk in night longing for the son and cursing them for the day they got their little prince married. The girl keeps pestering others ruining a new family.

Why our civil laws don’t take this into notice-why are they so women oriented? I agree harassment by girls is not that glorious incident as dowry but still –isn’t family development also the responsibility? Why an innocent family has to bear the brunt of it? Why do they have to live in constant fear of the demon bahu (daughter in law)? There happy home is broken by her, there dreams squashed and their hopes killed.

Girls are not having patience these days. They don’t realize there first job is of homemaking not breaking. I know it takes two to tango but when the parent in laws equally love why do they do such monstrous things to them? If it happens I am sure there will be lesser need for Old Age homes or nannies to take care of their little ones. Little kids dote on their grandparents and grandparents too shower love and teach so much to the kids. They won’t delay there conceptions till the time they can take out time to have babies. There will be no need for IVFs or stress related problems. Staying together is great and the support is tremendous.

I just hope we all find a solution to this soon. What do you think? I know there will be many opinions contradicting mine that is why I want more brain storming over this! Hope to have one! 🙂

Saawariya-the music review

I recently added Saawariya to my iPOD. Trust me ever since I have heard this new maestro Monty’s work I am mesmerized.

The title track-‘Saawariya daras bina nahi chain‘ simply lingers on and on in your mind and the echo effects of all the taals and dhinakdina from again a new found maestro-Shail Hada are spellbounding. The song is divine and touches your heart and makes you close your eyes and just meditate and think about your love.:) The lyrics take you back to era of 60s with silent S and no shhhhhhh..The avadhi flavor of the songs leaves an enchanting aroma to the soul.

Richa Sharma has sung the song in saintly manner like Mirabai singing for her Krishna (Mirabai was a devotee of the high, higher, highest order. Among the saints of India, she is absolutely unparalleled. She composed many, many bhajans, which are prayerful songs to God. Each song Mirabai wrote expressed her inspiration, aspiration and sleepless self-giving) .

My next favorite is Jab Se Tere Naina. What a piece of pure music and melody by Shaan. This is one of his best works and one that he must be proud of. You feel like going back to the song again and again. Lyrics are just what you feel like singing to your beloved. The taal and refrain by chorus is commendable.  The opening of this oyster song is wonderful-the ‘lage re lage re lage nayanva lage re‘- they drop a hint a pearl has been found. Shaan sounds soft and tender. Innocence is what defines this gem to the hilt. No wonder this song ranks in the Most Played playlist in the iPOD. For all first time and new lovers..enjoy… 🙂

The next best is Saawariya track again by Shail Hada. Kudos to sanjay Leela Bhansali for finding onem ore gem after exploiting the talents of Shreya Ghoshal. My only regret with the song being its length. I mean at 2:47 till the time you sip in the feel of the song-it runs over leaving you wanting for more of it. Leaving you wanting more of -‘I wanna be your date tonight ,you gonna be my princess‘. Oh c’mon Mr. Bhansali-why you did this to wonderful piece..why theres no second stanza ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh..loved the way it has been crooned with the haaa haaaa hassssss after the refraining Saawariya.

The next one is Masha Allah-this ones by Kunal Ganjawala-lovely poetry. But the song reminds me of trademark Kunal Ganjawala. Must say this guy arrived with huge bang but needs to reinvent himself-his usual crooning and love ballad stamp somehow lets me down. Its a typical Kunal Ganjawala but beautiful Allah refrain by Shreya Ghoshal. Shreya Ghoshal does the same magic in this number as what Kailash Kher did to Chand Sifraish by crooing Subhan Allah!! Ever wondered how it would have sounded minus the lovely subhan allah………….naah I don’t even wanna make a sin by wondering! ;). For all hardcore romantics and Mills and Boons lovers-this is the song for all those who want to woo their loved ones.

Now comes the Pari track-again a Kunal Ganjawala number. No I don’t have any repugnance against this singer, I o love his work but feel free to confess he needs to reinvent himself. The usual pitches he uses and the usual blues he sings in-is typical of him. I felt little let down by this song. Monotonous and unusual music arrangment somehow kills the essence of this otherwise could have been better song. 🙂

The other trackes inculde Chabeela-Alka Yagnik number. Kunal Ganjawala should take inspiration here-the way Alka Yagnik has sung it-she sounds everything except Alka Yagnik. Totallay naughty, expressive and juicy. The wordings tease you ..like Rani Mukherjee the courtesan teases Ranbir …good work.

Rest of the songs are good but not with repetitive value.

All in all-wonderful finding Mr. Bhansali-kudos to both Monty and Shail Hada.

But I just hope and pray they don’t turn out to be one time 15 minutes of fame success like Ismail Darbar. Don’t know why he could never come up with wonderful album like Hum dil de chuke Sanam ever again?

The album reminds you signature Bhansali tracks-the dhol and lovely music arrangement.

Will keep updating this post for new songs of Saawariya I hear ! Watch out for this space;)

What do you think -listeners of Saawariya?

Missing my Grandpa!

I was born after alomst a decade of marriage and a miscarriage. I was my parents hope and a surprise bundle which god has sent wrapped with love.

When my mom was nine months pregnant she slipped in the bathroom and was rushed ot the hospital. My papa was tensed and nervous when the doctor told him-they can only save either mom or the baby. He ran away fom the hospital. And then I arrived at 11:20 pm with blue birthmark on my half body on right side (my mom fell on the right side).

I was a very chubby baby and my mom took hours to make me ready. Papa got ribbons and all sorts of hairclips and frocks for me. I use to get dressed up and aunties of our colony use to come and see me. What I simply abhorred was when they pulled my squishy cheeks. And how repugnant I was towards people who kissed my cheeks and say-‘allleeeelle lelleleee-how cute are you-come to us…..‘. Awwww …… 😦 how I hated it.

I was in the afternoon shift at St. Josephs back then.

Once I was packing my bag and learnt that black color was missing from my color box. I was at my teary best(quite typical of me in childhood-super sensitive I was 😉 ) .

I ran to my grandfather’s house which was few blocks away and told him about my lost crayon. H e could never see a child crying. So he took me in his lap and said -‘baby no need to cry…….‘ . The more he convinced me the harder I cried..heheheheee.

So finally he said ok try to open my fist. Must say it was a very tight grip and after many attempts I opened it and lo behold I found a new black crayon…..

And till today whenever I lose anything -I remember you baba !! And then I open my fist and try to find you in my lines..

Miss you! Hope you’re happy and taking care of Papa! 😦

Till date I don’t know how he managed that?

Autumn Chill caressing Delhi

The best time is here…the autumn is here. People who have experienced the Delhi in October will agree.

Its unusual because people take autumn as the weather of desertion-where leaves leave tree [pun]. For people who are hard core romantics and who like me long for a person to hold hands and walk hand in hand with cool wind flowing through the hair know what magic am talking about.

The chilly wind cuts through my arms and gives me little goosebumps telling me -‘honey winter is knocking on the door’. Prepare yourself to wrap in warm embrace.

The dawn gets a new shimmering delight, the afternoons get shorter and little cozier due to warm cups of coffee, the evenings get immeresed in intoxicating  sweeping breeze and the night-oh they are the best-romantic, serene, pristine and quixotic.

 What do you think?

Night time hide and seek

It happens in night…when you come back from work…throw your car keys on the chest mantle and think now what? What do I do?

After few moments of pondering you open the fridge grab a cola or some water and take a sip…..After a long day’s hardwork you get so used and adaptive to work that it takes you time to settle down in the calm domesticity of your room. Sometimes my room appears to be someone elses…theres always a difference between how I leave my room while leaving for work in morning and the way I find it in night.  😉

The room seems to ask me questions….’hey now you don’t know how to kill time till sleep knocks on your eye lids??’ And I get irritated not because I don’t want to answer rather at my loss of answer.

I switch on my laptop..frisking away from my official files and head for the firefox….trying to connect to long lost friends…..and then I feel little secure knowing am not alone…people are there on the web asking me how am I?

But the worst nightmare is when I don’t find anyone there….I feel lost and I feel like a little kid sitting coyly under the table t obe found by her friends in the game of hide and seek…

No wonder why I lose everytime I play this Night time hide and seek…

Have you ever played?? Or more important -won?